Sunday, January 23, 2011

Opening Doors

Somehow, this very unexpected door, continues to open for us. And somehow, unexpectedly, I continue to be drawn to it. Here's how it started.

Last summer, my husband casually mentioned that his company would probably love to have someone from here re-locate to their India office. He had just taken on a project(s) that would be utilizing the team over there and a business trip to India was in his future.

My initial response was "Well, they can keep on looking because it would take a LOT to entice me to leave Victoria! A LOT!"

My idea of India was coloured by my experience in Japan which was great overall ....except that I lived in poverty in a 9x12 room, ate terribly and lived with a plethora of cockroaches. I imagined living in India would be living in a stifling apartment in unbearable heat, no job or purpose and again being in a culture I didn't fit into but this time with twice as many people and way, way, way more noise and chaos. (At least in the crowds of Japan, everyone was exceedingly quiet, polite and orderly. I meerly had to do the same.)

Needless to say, that uninformed impression did not appeal to this outdoorsy lover of big sky and lots of space.

However, when the business trip to India finally came around in November, the husband went off and did some reconnaissance. He came back with information that gave me a very different impression of what the ex-pat lifestyle could be.

It could be manicured lawns and California-style, air-conditioned housing and a club house with a couple of pools. It could be a safe community where kids play on the streets and in the park and friendly neighbours are out for walks in the evenings. It could be exploring the Indian culture on my terms, with assistance when I need it, and having a safe bubble-community to return to at the end of the day. It could mean having enough income to go travelling for long weekends or vacations to visit other parts of India or Thailand or Malaysia or the Maldives. It could mean a couple of trips home each year to visit friends and family or to continue fertility treatments.

So, very shortly after the business trip, when his boss outlined a job they were hoping to fill in India, one that would allow him to continue to manage a major project that he's already invested in....well, I was much more disposed to consider it a viable way to spend a couple of years.

The commitment would be two years. What's two years, really??

So, several interviews were had, questions were answered, and the initial response is very positive. And my initial investigations for work of my own lead to a very positive response from upper HR in my company. That's right, I may be able to work for my company in our Bangalore office. Crazy!!

Seems like when God opens a door and it just keeps opening, maybe it's a good idea to walk through it. So we're walking.

Right now, we're expecting an offer and looking forward to reviewing the ex-patriation package. We've had several opportunities over the past 2 months to back out, to say we're not really ready or interested or have concerns.

So far, we've said we're interested. We have questions but we're interested. We don't know how long the negotiation process could be. We don't know exactly when they'd want us to move. We don't know what we'd do with my fabulous wonderful cat. We don't know what the next few weeks are going to mean for us regarding fertility/family planning.

All we know is that if this door keeps opening, we'll keep walking through it.


  1. WOW! I just think that is amazing Stacey!! Good for you to be so open to what adventures life has to offer. I can't wait to see how it plays out.

  2. Ha, I cannot tell you how many times I've though the same thing: I can't wait to see how this plays out!
    Sometimes it is actually easier to take the passenger seat in your own life rather than always try to be the driver. :)