Monday, August 25, 2014

Goodbye naps, hello looong third trimester

Well, I finally accepted that the bedtime issue just wasn't going to resolve itself magically. The fact is both kids were up for over an hour after the later bedtime and we were only getting 45 minute of adult time before our own bedtime.

So I'm sad to say our napping days are basically over.  

It has been over 2 weeks now of either no naps or just short 30 minute naps and bedtime is now a dream. Both kids asleep almost immediately.  This makes me happy!

However, the idea of going through my whole third trimester with no naps makes me want to cry.
I'm at 28 weeks, and still feeling pretty good. If I lift too much or do too much helping the kids, I end up with really a sore belly by the end of the day. But overall, I'm very mobile and still have pretty good energy for doing activities. This is a bit surprising since my iron is quite low again... I only felt it for the first time yesterday; this feeling of being completely drained of my "life force."

I want to tire these kiddos out every day so I try to leave the house with them twice a day. That involves shopping, water parks, playgrounds, library and sometimes even swimming! I'm very pleased to be able to say I can now take two two-year-olds swimming by myself. They aren't kids who run away, they listen well, follow instructions, especially when they are happy.

The only issue I run into is when we need to leave and they are getting hungry, which equals less cooperative. So when they say "I stay," I don't argue with them, I just say, "Ok, Mommy needs to go home and have lunch/snack/whatever else" and then I start getting ready to go. Inevitably I get about 2 feet away and they pipe up "Sam coming too!" or "I go Mommy," which I always respond to with delight that they will be joining me. :) When they are old enough to call my bluff, I'll have to change tactics but I'm loving this one right now.

So here I am 28 weeks, shockingly weighing basically exactly what I did with the twins. I think I may actually have to work at losing this baby weight! I'm okay with that, I'll take a natural (short) delivery, healthy recovery, no infection, no debilitating anxiety and a regular workout schedule, thank you very much. I so wish we could just order these things online like everything else. :)

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Bossiness and Bedtimes

Oh boy are things getting bossy around these parts! Pleases and thank yous do happen but they are an after-thought most of the time or something we need to remind them of.

Frequent refrains these days:
"Daddy no drive way out Sam/ Rachel/mommy."  (Somehow they are always a little worried about being left behind or leaving someone important behind.... And they don't have the word 'without,' or away, it's just 'out' and 'way'.
"Saaaammmmyyy, Go Sleep Right Now! No get up gain!" (Rachel is determined to play this bedtime game nearly everyday after dinner. Sam will comply for a minute and then get up at which time Rachel starts hanging onto his waist trying to drag him back into the bedroom, yelling at him to go to bed. Sam finds this a little funny but has no intention of playing along with the game and Rae gets more and more incensed! We are trying to explain personal choice to Rae and get her to pick another game.)

Tangent: Bedtime in our house has shifted rather dramatically this past month from 7:30ish to 8:30ish with sleep achieved closer to 9:30. It's partially due to the later days, we're just more relaxed about timing but also I would prefer they still nap, so even though they probably could just do a 30 minute cat nap or none at all, I could really use an hour! So they aren't as tired at 7 or 7:30 as they used to be. Also Andrew took the sides of the cribs off about 3 weeks ago and we decided to just see what would happen.

Here's what happened. After about a week Rachel decided to test her new freedom and sneak out of her bedroom after getting tucked in. We strongly enforced the rule of "you can play in your room but if you leave your room, we will close your door." Closing the door results in loud screaming and general distress so that appears to have worked. She now happily plays almost silently in her room until she's ready for a final diaper change and to get tucked in which often occurs around 9, 9:30.

Sam still doesn't seem to grasp the fact that he can get out of the bed himself without a grownup present. YAAAY! So he continues to yell for us from his crib for whatever he seems to need after we put him down, "One last huuuug Mooommy. One Last Hug!!" and "Music OOON Daddy" and "Turn hallway light On Daddy, too dark" and "Tuck Me In" and "Sam need water, one last drink." Putting Sam to sleep is a little like a game of wack-a-mole, you never know which hit is going to actually win the game. Sometimes he just needs one last hug and he's asleep but more often he runs through that whole list of requests over the course of an hour before he finally falls asleep. Siiigh!

With the later bedtime they are sleeping in a bit later in the mornings- usually 6:30, even 7:30 sometimes, which is way better than 5:30... although it's Andrew who gets up with them in the mornings so I can't really complain either way. Andrew lets me sleep an extra hour usually, sometimes even 2 hours depending on the day, which is making this pregnancy thing much easier. (I sleep far better in the mornings than late at night when baby Hope likes to Tango and Cha cha and generally get her groove on.)