Tuesday, February 17, 2015

12 weeks and Twin news

For a while after Cierra was born the twins were large dangerous obnoxious challenges. (Nothing like motherly love! :P) But they are regaining their charm these days.
Today Sam was finishing his sandwich at lunch and Cierra was watching him intently. He smiled at her, she smiled back, he laughed, she smiled, he laughed harder and then his laugh became the baby giggle I remember from when he was tiny. It was this burbling, stream of giggles, pure music to our ears.
Later the twins were playing together quietly (relatively) during quiet time this afternoon and a lot of the play revolved around cooking and eating Pogerie (perogy). I'd forgotten the mispronunciation that Sam first did at Christmas this year. It was so precious I couldn't correct it.
Cierra is busy learning to shove her fist in her mouth, whacking toys with her hands and getting them stuck not knowing how to let go, lifting her legs and kicking toys on the playmat and no longer pooping at night... Woo hoo! Even if she is cranky I can hold her facing out to watch the twins play and she is transfixed by their activity and noise. She also startles when they get too loud or come close too fast and if they cry, she will too. I think she is a very sympathetic little girl already.
In other twin news, we have potty trained!
A couple of weeks ago on a Thursday night we hit up Walmart and the twins chose big kid underwear. So Friday morning I explained we'd wear the big kid underwear and they should do all the pees and poops on the potty. I made a potty chart and they got a sticker for the chart every time they went and when it was full they'd get to buy a toy.
Sam had two accidents Friday and Rachel had 3.
Saturday Sam was dry all day and all night! Rachel had 7! SEVEN accidents! It was awful and I was ready to throw in the towel. She seemed to deliberately pee on the floor right after we had tried on the potty. We asked her if she knew when the pees were coming and she just didn't seem to know ahead of time? She wanted to please us but maybe the pressure to 'perform' was too high? I felt totally hopeless.
Sunday Sam was dry all day and all night again! Rachel had 3 or 4 accidents but she did try when we asked her to go.
Monday they each had one accident after naps and Rae had another one or two but then Andrew's friend came over after dinner and she actually tried to get to the potty while he was here and was mostly successful. Seemed like she was more aware of her body or not wanting to pee in front of someone else.
So I sent them to daycare with lots of changes of clothes. Rae only had one accident and it was on the way to the bathroom so she made huge progress pretty quickly in figuring out when she needs to go.
There is no turning back now. We are potty training/ed and life will never be the same. I'm kind of glad we are here and kind of still stressed over the number of accidents in our future but they are ready. At 2.5 weeks in, we only have a couple of accidents every couple of days and usually it's in the bathroom, just not getting the pants down quick enough.

Tuesday, February 3, 2015

10 weeks of baby

Sometimes it feels like I have a baby and the rest of the family life is just going on as best it can with me ... Encumbered. The twins don't pay much attention to Cierra yet.... But as she gets more and more alert, they are getting more interested. Sam acts downright bashful when she smiles at him. It's heartwarming.
And I am loving this amazing encumbrance. :)
On the days when the twins are home all day, Cierra tends to be quite wide awake. I think it may be an evolutionary thing.... Poor little girl better stay alert or she may get run over... Or completely forgotten in the mayhem that goes on when three years olds are cooped up in the house too long.
At 10 weeks she is finding her hands and chewing on them, batting at her toys and content to spend about half an hour alone on her play mat. But she loooves cooing and smiling and talking to anyone who will talk to her.
This weekend she cried real sympathy tears which was heartbreaking. Sam came to me crying about something and I was changing Cierra. I looked at him with concern and sympathy and probably a little frown on my face and when I looked back Cierra had her lower lip pushed out and her face all screwed up and she cried and cried these beautiful sympathetic tears. She cried as long as Sam did as I tried to comfort them both. Ah my sweet expressive children. So easy to read.
Rae on the other hand would have looked and then looked away and moved on to playing whatever she was interested in. But here is the thing. Even though she appears not to care, appears to be unmoved or not listening to us, she is! She is listening, she is moved, she just doesn't show it the same way and I need to be more aware of that, give her more time to process things and find a way to connect with her feelings in a way that meets her needs. I haven't figured out what that way is yet. It's not verbal, that's for sure..... And verbal is my way so I need to stretch myself a bit to connect with her.
This motherhood thing is so tricky and mothering three is going to always leave me feeling challenged. And I'm so grateful to be up for that and blessed with the challenge.